Valentine’s day is coming. Facebook ads about Valentine’s activities for kids crowd my newsfeed. Many activities I’ve been suggested are about Valentine cards that kids should make for their parents. I stopped and thought: am I sure it’s appropriate that I receive a Valentine card from my kid?
I don’t have kids, but I don’t think that I would want my kids to make Valentine cards for me. Mother’s Day and Father’s day are the days to give cards to your parents, your birthday is a good day too for that, but shouldn’t we encourage kids to give their Valentine’s cards to someone else?
Valentine can be a great opportunity to talk about love, to know more about your kids’ relationships at school. It’s a great deal for kids, and I believe it’s appropriate to keep it separate from the relationship with their parents. Kids’ first experiences at school, that being nervous at someone special, it’s from a development standpoint an important phase for your kids. Their learn how to deal with their emotions, and that can be challenging. Since kids are new to these feelings, they could feel ashamed or guilty for liking one of their friends. You don’t want to further confuse them, trying to orientate their first love feelings towards yourself. It may be flattering, or even just cute, but it’s not good for your kids.
On Timbuktu we prepared a special Valentine series of contents, stories and games to spark conversation between parents and kids about love. Because asking directly about love can be extremely intrusive, especially if your kids is shy.
That is why, approaching this delicate topic through fiction stories or games can dramatically improve the quality of the conversation between you and your kids.
Irony, and play are always a great key to engage a meaningful relationship with your kids!