So, I am a lucky father of 3 boys but I am beginning to understand that they might not be so lucky. My eldest is 3.5 years old and is in preschool. The feedback received from his teachers is that he is socially active but has not shown any interest in academics. He might be a candidate to be held back. Held back? Okay. Am I confused? Yes. He’s 3. Thank you Mrs. Teacher. When I was three, I am not sure how interested I was in learning my multiplication tables.
Fast forward 6 months. (When you have kids this young (3, 20 months, and 3 months), everything is measured in months.) It is a new school year with new classmates. I begin to hear rumblings of similar issues. I recently have a conversation with someone whose opinion I value and ask the questions about this phenomenon of “Holding back”.
“Oh, yea,” she says. “That is the trend.”
“Holding boys back a year. They call it redshirting.”
“Really?” I respond. You know a man didn’t come up with this concept. I mean redshirting?? Tears are running down my mind’s eye.
“Yes. Girls are much more mature and advanced socially and academically that boys are being held back so they can remain at the same level as their female counterparts.”
So, the paradigm has officially shifted. The necessary and deserved attention is being paid to females and they are maximizing that opportunity. A female dominated world?, you ask. Yes I think so.
This “trend” blows me away and I feel bad for my boys. Not distraught, but dismayed. I cannot wait to get home to discuss this with Jill. The conversation goes something like this…
“Jill, you are not going to believe this. Boys are being held back a year at an alarming rate. This impact on our boys could be significant.”
My wife: “No, duh, moron. Where have you been? Logan will be repeating kindergarten.”
This proves it. We, Dads, are clueless and the paradigm shifted years ago.