My First Post…….

by Jdallas1
in Advice for New Dads · Events · Learning · Our Stories · Random Dad Stuff · Random Parent Stuff
— 14 Sep, 2012

What’s up Playground Dad universe!? Before I get into the post I would like to tell you, the reader, about me. I was born Oct. 12th, 1984 in Greenwood, Mississippi. When I was 1 my dad walked out on me and my mom. I have grown up resenting my father because he left me and my mom and didn’t take care of his responsibilities. I would call myself a late bloomer of sorts. I never fit in in school because I didn’t wear what everybody else was wearing, I didn’t play any sports, and I was just “uncool”. My school experience was worth forgetting, and that led me to give up and not try academically. So I struggled in every aspect. I did pick up on golf but that was mainly because of my uncle, which I enjoyed for a long time. I actually got a job at the local country club and I immersed myself into the sport of pasture pool. I wanted to be a pro golfer and tour the country and play golf, but I didn’t put enough time in it to accomplish anything. HEY.. cheer up I know its been a downer so far but it gets better….trust me.

I met my now wife in 2004 at a party. Our first conversation was yelling at each other! I was drunk, which I stayed during that time in my young teenage life mainly to fit in and the whole dad not caring was taking hold of my confused-I-know-everything complex. I yelled something that I probably shouldn’t have that was towards my recent ex but it might have been towards women in general. Whoops bbbaaddd mmooovvee. She heard and tried to set me straight which was useless. She was a challenge in my eyes because she didn’t just fall all over me. So as a red blooded american male I wanted to win this contest. So I pursued and indeed won that contest when we started dating in July of 2004. We broke up and got back together like every couple does and had our fights and great times together. Now, my wife is no push over. She is red-headed, quick tempered, incredibly smart, and lacks common sense. I, on the other hand, am passive, smart in my own ways, and have common sense out the wazoo. On July 7th, 2007, we got married in a ceremony we paid for completely on our own. We decided early on that we would wait and have fun and enjoy being married before kids came along and we did just that. Had a blast, mostly worked to pay for those short little vacations, but it was great. We got a house, paid bills, and fought like cats and dogs. Once we decided it was time for kids, we started trying but was unsuccessful for a long time. We actually decided to give it a rest and just try later when there was no stress from life. But that’s when life is gonna throw you that curve ball and you wasn’t expecting to swing at.

In early 2010 we found out we were expecting our first child. That experience I will never forget because it totally transformed everything. It felt like it took a year for my daughter to get here, but in feb. 2011, Haley Brooke was born. BTW (side note) I called that she was gonna be a girl and my wife was wrong BAAAMM WINNING!!!!! Anyway.. She came and I soon realized that I was wrapped around her everything the moment I saw her. It is a magical experience becoming a dad for the first time and it was EXHAUSTING. I think for the first few months I didn’t sleep at all. During this time my father came into the picture through Facebook. We decided to meet and I decided that I wanted to bring closure to what actually went down that made him leave. But that venture failed to get off the ground thanks to some more lies from him and his new “wife”.

I never went to college. Scratch that, I have been to college twice but failed to complete it. Once I followed a girlfriend (BAD IDEA) and once we ran out of money. I scored a job at the hospital here in greenwood and have become more financially more stable for my daughter and wife. Haley has grown so fast in my eyes and is so smart. She is a blond haired, blue eyed bottle of energy that has made my life even better every single day. Now we are expecting a boy in december of this year and we are really excited about it. We think Haley knows about baby brother but we won’t know until he is here and she lays eyes on him. They make my life so much better and have taught me so much that I hope I can help new dads through the trials and rewards that comes with raising a child. I hope you enjoyed my first post and I hope with your support I can write some more and become friends with yall. Thanks for reading…